“We see the world not as it is, but as we are.” — Anaïs Nin
So much of our stress and frustration comes from the narratives we create in our own minds. We assume the worst, misinterpret situations, and react based on incomplete information. But what if we paused and asked, “What else could this mean?”
A simple yet powerful way to reframe our thoughts is by using the phrase, “The story I’m telling myself is…” This technique, inspired by the research of Brené Brown and refined through coaching and mentorship, helps shift perspective and challenge assumptions. Instead of jumping to conclusions, it allows us to acknowledge our internal dialogue and consider alternative explanations.
By practicing this habit, we open ourselves to clearer communication, deeper understanding, and less unnecessary stress. Instead of letting assumptions guide us, we learn to respond with curiosity and wisdom. So next time a situation stirs doubt or frustration, ask yourself, “What else could this mean?”—it just might change everything.
Evans Akpo 