Evans Akpo

Being a ‘work in progress’ is a great state to be in. – Stop berating yourself for being a work in progress.  Start embracing it!  Because being a work in progress doesn’t mean you’re not good enough today; it means you want a better tomorrow, and you wish to love yourself completely, so you can live your life fully.  It means you’re determined to heal your heart, expand your mind and cultivate the gifts you know you’re meant to share.  May we all be works in progress forever, and celebrate the fact  we are who we are.

Contrary to long held traditional view that real men don’t cry.

Real men cry.

You are not who you used to be, and that’s OK. You’ve been hurt; you’ve gone through numerous ups and downs, it has made you who you are today. Over the years, so many things have happened – things that have changed your perspective, taught you lessons, and forced your spirit to grow. As time passes, nobody stays the same, but some people will still tell you that you have changed. Respond to them by saying, “Of course I’ve changed. That’s what life is all about. But I’m still the same person, just a little stronger now than I ever was before.”

He said years later after becoming president “my years in the presidency has helped me grow. President Obama statement captures what we’ve silently longed for – “growth. ” Happiness comes with growth. Do not educate yourself to be rich alone, educate yourself to grow happy. That way when you grow older you’ll know the value of things, not the price. In the end, you will come to realize that the best days are the days when you don’t need anything extreme or special to happen to make you smile. You simply appreciate the moments and feel gratitude, seeking nothing else, nothing more. That is what true happiness is all about. You grow into your own happiness like a plant in the midst of what prevents growth. Time to stimulate your own growth.

Everything that happens helps you grow, even if it’s hard to see right now. Circumstances will direct you, correct you, and perfect you over time. So whatever you do, hold on to hope. The tiniest thread will twist into an unbreakable cord. Let hope anchor you in the possibility that this is not the end of your story – that the change in the tides will eventually bring you to peaceful shores.

The road and path might be rough and bend. Most times it will appear  torn between what you want and who you are. Like a divided glass between woods, you still have to make the decision. Sometimes getting the results you crave means stripping yourself of people that don’t serve your best interests. This allows you to make space for those who support you in being the absolute best version of yourself. It happens gradually as you grow. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on. You have to move on between those paths and ensure you have made a decision.

In life we sometimes see  people seated in beautiful positions beyond description. There are times we wish we were in those same position, especially when we have paid such a huge price. However we may have tried in life, our effort may not reflect our current result. In such situation, that is the time to be relax.

Be seated in your place until the promotion comes. Being relax is an active step in pursuing our dreams,  not the passive waiting on what will never happened. Be patient in all you are created to be. Be seated.

Today is still a priceless gift (make the best of it). – we only have so many days left on Earth.  I don’t know how many that is, but we do know it’s a very limited number.  I know that each one of those limited days is a gift, a blessing… a miracle.  And that squandering this miracle is a crime – a horrible lack of appreciation for what we’ve been given.  And so, we need to remind ourself every morning that this day counts and that we still need to make the best of it.  That doesn’t mean I need to be hyper-productive or work myself into the ground, but that I should do something worthwhile.  Sometimes taking a break to nourish yourself is a worthwhile activity, because doing so allows you to regroup and do other worthwhile things.  But just sitting around in self-pity isn’t helpful. Celebrate the day of a priceless gift.

Happy New Month. I will be sharing the same idea you’ve always known. People should be reminded often than they are instructed.

The seat might look very comfortable and attractive, but successful people never go back. Henry Cloud a well known consultants to great companies wrote a book I would encourage everyone to read. It’s titled “Never Go Back: 10 Things Successful People Never Do Again.” He made a clear case for the reason successful people never go back to what doesn’t take them forward in life. Return to what hasn’t worked.Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different. Until it is different, it might not make a difference. So there is no need in going back.