Given how the year went fast, I realized I was answering almost every question thrown my way. Some were genuine inquiries that deserved thoughtful responses. Others? Well, they were questions I had already answered, just asked differently. This made me reflect on the importance of setting boundaries—not to shut people out, but to protect my time and energy.
Boundaries aren’t bad; they’re your guards. They help you focus on what truly matters. Upholding your boundaries is a way of valuing yourself. And when those boundaries are tested, remember this: sometimes, the best response is silence. There’s no need to waste your words on negativity or frustration. Your time is precious—don’t spend it on things or people that drain your peace. Carry on with grace instead.
But here’s something else to keep in mind: not all toxic situations stem from bad intentions. Sometimes, it’s people who genuinely care for you, but their needs or way of navigating life inadvertently force you to compromise your well-being. They’re not bad people, but they may not be the right people for your daily circle.
You can’t sacrifice yourself every day for someone else. It’s okay to create healthy space for yourself in 2025. Whether that means stepping back from a job, a relationship, loving someone from a distance, or saying no to obligations that feel heavy—you’re allowed to prioritize your happiness. You deserve peace, and setting boundaries is how you make room for it.
Evans Akpo 