You see, changes, and even deaths, are simply endings, which are all a necessary part of living. And all endings are necessary for beauty, too—otherwise it’s impossible to appreciate someone or something, because they are unlimited. Limits illuminate beauty—they are reminders that we need to be aware of this beautiful person or situation, and appreciate this beautiful thing called life. Every ending is also a beginning, because while we have lost someone or something special, this ending, like every loss, is a moment of reinvention. Although heartbreaking, it forces us to reinvent our lives, and in this reinvention is an opportunity to experience beauty in new, unseen ways and places. And, of course, every ending is an opportunity to celebrate the beautiful, ever-changing journey we’re on, and to be grateful for what it has showed us and taught us along the way.
Getting to this point of understanding—changing your thinking—again, is far from easy. But it’s honestly worth every bit of effort you can muster.
We all need a healthy reminder like this sometimes—that if we want to be happier, we need to do the hard things, to face the unexpected losses and painful life changes that we’re going to encounter no matter how much we try to avoid them. We need a reminder to face down our pain and negative thinking and leverage it to take the next step. And, sometimes, we just need a reminder that we’re not done yet—that today is worth fighting for.
You may not be responsible for everything that happened to you in the past, or everything that’s happening to you right now, but you need to be responsible for standing strong and undoing the thinking patterns these circumstances create.
Evans Akpo 