Evans Akpo

Be specific! If you have a disagreement then know exactly what it is about. Never (and we all fall into this trap) generalize! By moving from a specific issue to a general set of statements, you are taking the quarrel to another, and at times, a silly level. If there is a disagreement, remain specific and most of the time it will then remain at a disagreement. Often, the other person may not even have been aware of the issue at hand. However, as soon as you add in generalized comments and issues about the other person, you make it personal and veer away from objectivity. That’s when the real quarrel starts. Relationship quarrels are a good example here. Please be specific, its saves friendships and relationships.