It shouldn’t be personal (i)


Sometimes, have you ever pause to realize that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you? People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences. Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them and how they view the world than it is about you. Same views about you yet different people. I remember walking into a place where someone looked at me and exclaimed “how dark I was” and another thought I was very “light skin.”

I’m not suggesting we should be self-indulged narcissists and ignore all the opinions and commentary we receive from others. I’m simply saying that incredible amounts of hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives come directly from our tendency to take things personally. In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinions of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
The underlying key would be for you to watch your response and not take it personally. Never take any personal remark personally. Learn from it, grow but never take it personally.

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